# Everybody hurts

The truth of life... Everyone should be ever feel lonely, down, hurts, or sad. But the truth is how we face it. Why wasting time for it. Life is more beautiful when you could face it. Everybody ever hurts but we are not alone in this huge world. Please be advice and take care all of those unwise feelings with this song.

This song did by REM. Here is the history. And then it populars again by The Corrs . Let us sing it together from our own place and let those all unwise feelings gone..



Everybody Hurts

When your day is long
And the night
The night is yours alone
When you're sure you've had enough.... of this life
Well hang on

Don't let yourself go
Cause everybody cries
And everybody hurts
Sometimes

Sometimes everything is wrong
Now it's time to sing along
(When your day is night alone)
Hold on, hold on
(If you feel like letting go)
Hold on
If you think you've had too much.... of this life
Well hang on

Cause everybody hurts
Take comfort in your friends
Everybody hurts

Don't throw your hand
Oh, no
Don't throw your hand
When you feel like you're alone
No, no, no, you're not alone

If you're on your own
In this life
The days and nights are long
When you think you've had too much
Of this life
To hang on

Well, everybody hurts
Sometimes, everybody cries
And everybody hurts
Sometimes

And everybody hurts
Sometimes

So, hold on, hold on
Hold on, hold on
Hold on, hold on
Hold on, hold on
(Everybody hurts
You are not alone)

# To Be A Champion

Have you ever wondered what successful people have that makes them successful?

Ever wonder how those champion recruiters in your company manage, month after month, to get the most new recruits, the biggest bonuses, the largest paychecks?

Well let see the secret. No one starts out as a Champion. Most of them started out like you and me.

So what is it that makes a Champion different from the rest?

Champions have an attitude, a mindset that sets them apart from the rest. But most of these qualities are not exceptional.

Indeed each and every one of us possesses these qualities when we start out in life. But somewhere along the way we tend to lose them and diminish our own potential.

To be a Champion, you must first become a Child!


1. Champions are Willing to Learn.

Children come into this world with an innate desire to learn, to understand the world around them.

They are like sponges observing and absorbing every fact, every reaction. Because they know that their very survival depends on it.

One of the most important, and oft-repeated, qualities we need to succeed in business is a willingness to learn - to be teachable.

To become a champion, you must be willing to educate yourself or be educated, to read about, learn and absorb all the things you need to know, even if they are completely new to you.

If you don't, you are doomed to failure from the start.


2. Champions are Willing to Act

Have you notice how children completely geared towards action? As soon as they learn a new skill, they want to put it into action.

Champions are the same. They put their newly learned skills to use, taking concrete steps to improve their performance, so they can take their business to the next level.

They know that they must act on what they have learned, even if they haven't perfected it. Which brings me to their next quality.


3. Champions are Not Afraid to Fail

Just as a child picks itself up again and again, every time it falls while taking its first steps, champions are not afraid to fall down or fail.

They know that failure is the best teacher. They learn from their mistakes and keep fine-tuning their methods till they succeed.

Champions have the courage to fall down and not be discouraged. They pick themselves up and keep trying.


4. Champions are Willing to Adapt

Darwin got it wrong.

Survival does not happen to the Fittest, but to the Most Adaptable.

As children, we adapt to long-term change relatively easily. We are more willing to accept situations and adapt our behaviour accordingly.

Unfortunately, as we grow older, we become more rigid in our thinking, unwilling to accept that there may be better ways of doing things.

In a changing business scenario, resistance to change makes us obsolete. We end up losing out to players with a better understanding of changing trends.

Champions are those who can adapt themselves and their business to changing trends.


5. Champions are Willing to Innovate

Children are extremely inventive beings. They come into this world with no preconceived notions of doing things. In their minds there are no limits to what they can do or how they can do it.

Champions apply these very principles to take their business to the top.

They not only learn from what has been done before. They find ways of doing it more efficiently, more cheaply, more successfully.

You don't have to be like a child in all respects to succeed. It's probably not even desirable.

But if your pre-conceived notions, fears and hesitation are preventing you from reaching your goals, try looking at the world through a child's eyes.

At best you will improve your chances of success, at worst you'll remain young at heart.

# Forgiveness

Did u ever feel guilty???... Someone judge you and its hurts you badly, and the saddest thing to know is people who judge you is a person who close to you. They said that you started it.

They could not forgive for what you've been done. They really meant it. You hurt their feeling, you hurt their pride. Now they don't want to know you meant it or not....

The fact is they can't forgive for what you've been said or done for their feelings. They feel hurts n unforgettable. So you have to deserve to feel the same. They try to show off and prove that they can hurt you more badly than you did to them. They search for your weakness, collected it as more as they could, and then they "STAB" it right in the center of your heart...

And they did it perfectly...Can you feel it...? Oh... I can feel it... It is started to grow. The hurt and the pain are growing like mushrooms. And that’s meant they win and you lose. Is that true??

Guilty and hurts should be the hardest burden for you. How could you move toward if there are still any burdens? You can’t forget it. What they said and did haunted you. If you couldn't forget and let it go, so whats the different between you and them? You can't forgive them? Even you can’t forgive "YOURSELF".

Meant it or not, It happened. You have already hurt them. But please be advice! No one had clean sheet of life. No one made no mistakes in this world. You have to change your thought. If they can't forgive you than "YOU HAVE TO FORGIVE YOURSELF".

Burn all their false, your false, and the vengeance with your "FORGIVENESS". Let the wind blow the ashes away. Now your heart heals and grows stronger. Not like ordinary people hearts your hearts more invulnerable from hurts... I really meant it. When someone tries to hurt you, automatically you can forgive them even you could think that they didn't mean it. This is really a beautiful thing in this life. It meant you have won one of this life challenges.

Now you ready to move toward for you life. The bad past had been burned. You have learned the most beautiful things about forgiveness. The future is waiting for you to face. Move on ...

Here is a little quote for us

~ The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. - Mahatma Gandhi

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# Genghis Khan and his Hawk

One morning Genghis Khan , the great king and warrior, rode out into the woods to have a day's sport. Many of his friends were with him. They rode out gayly, carrying their bows and arrows. Behind them came the servants with the hounds.

It was a merry hunting party. The woods rang with their shouts and laughter. They expected to carry much game home in the evening.

On the king's wrist sat his favorite hawk, for in those days hawks were trained to hunt. At a word from their masters they would fly high up into the air, and look around for prey. If they chanced to see a deer or a rabbit, they would swoop down upon it swift as any arrow.

All day long Genghis Khan and his huntsmen rode through the woods. But they did not find as much game as they expected.

Toward evening they started for home. The king had often ridden through the woods, and he knew all the paths. So while the rest of the party took the nearest way, he went by a longer road through a valley between two mountains.

The day had been warm, and the king was very thirsty. His pet hawk left his wrist and flown away. It would be sure to find its way home.

The king rode slowly along. He had once seen a spring of clear water near this pathway. If he could only find it now! But the hot days of summer had dried up all the mountain brooks.

At last, to his joy, he saw some water trickling down over the edge of a rock. He knew that there was a spring farther up. In the wet season, a swift stream of water always poured down here; but now it came only one drop at a time.

The king leaped from his horse. He took a little silver cup from his hunting bag. He held it so as to catch the slowly falling drops.

It took a long time to fill the cup; and the king was so thirsty that he could hardly wait. At last it was nearly full. He put the cup to his lips, and was about to drink.

All at once there was a whirring sound in the air, and the cup was knocked from his hands. The water was all spilled upon the ground.

The king looked up to see who had done this thing. It was his pet hawk.

The hawk flew back and forth a few times, and then alighted among the rocks by the spring.

The king picked up the cup, and again held it to catch the trickling drops.

This time he did not wait so long. When the cup was half full, he lifted it toward his mouth. But before it had touched his lips, the hawk swooped down again, and knocked it from his hands.

And now the king began to grow angry. He tried again, and for the third time the hawk kept him from drinking.

The king was now very angry indeed.

"How do you dare to act so?" he cried. "If I had you in my hands, I would wring your neck!"

Then he filled his cup again. But before he tried to drink, he drew his sword.

"Now, Sir Hawk," he said, "that is the last time."

He had hardly spoken before the hawk swooped down and knocked the cup from his hand. But the king was looking for this. With a quick sweep of the sword he struck the bird as it passed.

The next moment the poor hawk lay bleeding and dying at its master's feet.

"That is what you get for your pains," said Genghis Khan.

But when he looked for his cup, he found that it had fallen between two rocks, where he could not reach it.

"At any rate, I will have a drink from that spring," he said to himself.

With that he began to climb the steep bank to the place from which the water trickled. It was hard work, and the higher he climbed, the thirstier he became.

At last he reached the place. There indeed was a pool of water; but what was that lying in the pool, and almost filling it? It was a huge, dead snake of the most poisonous kind.

The king stopped. He forgot his thirst. He thought only of the poor dead bird lying on the ground below him.

"The hawk saved my life!" he cried, "and how did I repay him? He was my best friend, and I have killed him."

He clambered down the bank. He took the bird up gently, and laid it in his hunting bag. Then he mounted his horse and rode swiftly home. He said to himself,

"I have learned a sad lesson today, and that is, never to do anything in anger."

# Quotes Collections

All successful people men and women are big dreamers. They imagine what their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work every day toward their distant vision, that goal or purpose.

Brian Tracy




Every human has four endowments- self-awareness, conscience,independent will and creative imagination. These give us the ultimate human freedom... The power to choose, to respond, to change.
Stephen Covey

Let others lead small lives, but not you. Let others argue over small things, but not you. Let others cry over small hurts, but not you. Let others leave their future in someone else's hands, but not you.
Jim Rohn




Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is to not stop questioning.
Albert Einstein

I've come to believe that all my past failure and frustrations were actually laying the foundation for the understandings that have created the new level of living I now enjoy.

Anthony Robbins




He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still.
Lao-Tzu




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# Never.. Never.. Never Give Up

Most of us know exactly who said this quote. Ok.. let me give another hint with his another quote…
“Success is going from failure to failure without a loss of enthusiam.”
Yes .. you almost got it… He is really really a big taft guy. Here is He


That just a prolog… Here is the point....
I surf from youtube n got this inspiration video to share with u… Now let us see the relations between the video and the quotes above

# Love story

I share this story especially for who believe in faith. Honestly I never drops any happy tears for anythings before. But after read this story I can feel my eyes start drowning. This story come from the well known book Chicken Soup For The Soul Many of us maybe had read it.. but I think we could read it once again and feel the power of love.



Hungry for Your Love
by Herman and Roma Rosenblat
As told to Barbara DeAngelis, Ph.D.

It is cold, so bitter cold, on this dark, winter day in 1942. But it is no different from any other day in this Nazi concentration camp. I stand shivering in my thin rags, still in disbelief that this nightmare is happening. I am just a young boy. I should be playing with friends; I should be going to school; I should be looking forward to a future, to growing up and marrying, and having a family of my own. But those dreams are for the living, and I am no longer one of them. Instead, I am almost dead, surviving from day to day, from hour to hour, ever since I was taken from my home and brought here with tens of thousands other Jews. Will I still be alive tomorrow? Will I be taken to the gas chamber tonight?

Back and forth I walk next to the barbed wire fence, trying to keep my emaciated body warm. I am hungry, but I have been hungry for longer than I want to remember. I am always hungry. Edible food seems like a dream. Each day as more of us disappear, the happy past seems like a mere dream, and I sink deeper and deeper into despair. Suddenly, I notice a young girl walking past on the other side of the barbed wire. She stops and looks at me with sad eyes, eyes that seem to say that she understands, that she, too, cannot fathom why I am here. I want to look away, oddly ashamed for this stranger to see me like this, but I cannot tear my eyes from hers.

Then she reaches into her pocket, and pulls out a red apple. A beautiful, shiny red apple. Oh, how long has it been since I have seen one! She looks cautiously to the left and to the right, and then with a smile of triumph, quickly throws the apple over the fence. I run to pick it up, holding it in my trembling, frozen fingers. In my world of death, this apple is an expression of life, of love. I glance up in time to see the girl disappearing into the distance.

The next day, I cannot help myself-I am drawn at the same time to that spot near the fence. Am I crazy for hoping she will come again? Of course. But in here, I cling to any tiny scrap of hope. She has given me hope and I must hold tightly to it. And again, she comes. And again, she brings me an apple, flinging it over the fence with that same sweet smile.

This time I catch it, and hold it up for her to see. Her eyes twinkle. Does she pity me? Perhaps. I do not care, though. I am just so happy to gaze at her. And for the first time in so long, I feel my heart move with emotion.

For seven months, we meet like this. Sometimes we exchange a few words. Sometimes, just an apple. But she is feeding more than my belly, this angel from heaven. She is feeding my soul. And somehow, I know I am feeding hers as well.

One day, I hear frightening news: we are being shipped to another camp. This could mean the end for me. And it definitely means the end for me and my friend. The next day when I greet her, my heart is breaking, and I can barely speak as I say what must be said: "Do not bring me an apple tomorrow," I tell her. "I am being sent to another camp. We will never see each other again." Turning before I lose all control, I run away from the fence. I cannot bear to look back. If I did, I know she would see me standing there, with tears streaming down my face.

Months pass and the nightmare continues. But the memory of this girl sustains me through the terror, the pain, the hopelessness. Over and over in my mind, I see her face, her kind eyes, I hear her gentle words, I taste those apples. And then one day, just like that, the nightmare is over. The war has ended. Those of us who are still alive are freed. I have lost everything that was precious to me, including my family. But I still have the memory of this girl, a memory I carry in my heart and gives me the will to go on as I move to America to start a new life.

Years pass. It is 1957. I am living in New York City. A friend convinces me to go on a blind date with a lady friend of his. Reluctantly, I agree. But she is nice, this woman named Roma. And like me, she is an immigrant, so we have at least that in common.

"Where were you during the war?" Roma asks me gently, in that delicate way immigrants ask one another questions about those years.
"I was in a concentration camp in Germany," I reply.
Roma gets a far away look in her eyes, as if she is remembering something painful yet sweet.
"What is it?" I ask.
"I am just thinking about something from my past, Herman," Roma explains in a voice suddenly very soft.
"You see, when I was a young girl, I lived near a concentration camp. There was a boy there, a prisoner, and for a long while, I used to visit him every day. I remember I used to bring him apples. I would throw the apple over the fence, and he would be so happy."
Roma sighs heavily and continues.
"It is hard to describe how we felt about each other-after all, we were young, and we only exchanged a few words when we could-but I can tell you, there was much love there. I assume he was killed like so many others. But I cannot bear to think that, and so I try to remember him as he was for those months we were given together."

With my heart pounding so loudly I think it will explode, I look directly at Roma and ask, "And did that boy say to you one day, 'Do not bring me an apple tomorrow. I am being sent to another camp'?"
"Why, yes," Roma responds, her voice trembling.
"But, Herman, how on earth could you possibly know that?"
I take her hands in mine and answer, "Because I was that young boy, Roma."
For many moments, there is only silence. We cannot take our eyes from each other, and as the veils of time lift, we recognize the soul behind the eyes, the dear friend we once loved so much, whom we have never stopped loving, whom we have never stopped remembering.

Finally, I speak: "Look, Roma, I was separated from you once, and I don't ever want to be separated from you again. Now, I am free, and I want to be together with you forever. Dear, will you marry me?"

I see that same twinkle in her eye that I used to see as Roma says, "Yes, I will marry you," and we embrace, the embrace we longed to share for so many months, but barbed wire came between us. Now, nothing ever will again.

Almost forty years have passed since that day when I found my Roma again. Destiny brought us together the first time during the war to show me a promise of hope and now it had reunited us to fulfill that promise.

Valentine's Day, 1996. I bring Roma to the Oprah Winfrey Show to honor her on national television. I want to tell her infront of millions of people what I feel in my heart every day:
"Darling, you fed me in the concentration camp when I was hungry. And I am still hungry, for something I will never get enough of: I am only hungry for your love."

# Feelings and Attitudes

I read This article time and time. Try to understand what the author want to tell us about the different between feelings n attitudes. Sometimes we can`t see the different. But thanks God, slowly I could absorb and accept it piece by piece in my mind. This is one of the best article i ever read. Hope it useful for all of us....

Feelings & Attitudes

"Are feelings and attitudes the same thing or different? Does one cause the other to happen? Which one has more power over how we respond? Does the person experiencing them have any choice in the matter? What if they are in conflict?

Feelings are what they are. We can’t force them. The phrase “I can’t help how I feel” keeps rattling around in my head as I write this. There is no magical way to change how we feel. They aren’t right or wrong, they just exist. Feelings are very powerful and definitely have a control over how we make choices and how we move through life. We will do almost anything to avoid feeling bad. Think about the money, time, and focus we put into trying to feel good and avoiding feeling bad. That’s not a bad thing, it’s the nature of feelings. It goes against human nature to want to feel bad.

Feelings are based in emotions. Emotions come from the heart. Therefore, I don’t think we can change them from within our logical minds. If your favorite pet dies, then you feel sad. You cannot be expected to simply stop feeling sad. You will feel some level of sadness until you have finished feeling sad. It is possible to distract yourself for awhile, but the feelings will just lay dormant until you allow them time to fully run their course. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to distract yourself from the bad feelings of missing your pet, but it will slow down the process. There are constructive things you can do to aid the processing of your feelings. Regardless of how you handle your feelings, you’re going to feel what you feel until it works it’s way through your heart. You might always miss that pet and feel a slight tug at your heart when you think back, but the overwhelming sadness will eventually pass. It always does. That’s why they say ‘time heals all wounds.’ You can’t maintain any one feeling indefinitely. Emotions by nature are shifting and uncontrollable. They simply are what they are.

What about our attitudes? An entire multi-million dollar industry has been built around the power of a positive attitude. The industry wouldn’t have survived and thrived as it has if it wasn’t a valid and real concept. Our attitudes are rooted in our belief systems. Our belief systems are chosen by our logical minds. Therefore, it is possible to make a conscious decision to change it. Our minds have complete and total control over what we believe. I don’t think I need to bore you with another longwinded speech about the powers of a positive attitude. If you’ve ever tried it, then you have proven for yourself that it is possible to make an internal adjustment regarding your attitude.

So, which is stronger? Which has more influence over our choices and behaviors? Does one overpower the other? Let’s say that you find yourself falling madly head over heals in love with someone. That’s a feeling, an emotion. It comes from your heart. However, at the same time, you are entertaining a very pessimistic attitude towards love and relationships in general. The attitude comes from your mind. Which will win out, the feelings of falling in love or the dark attitude? It's hard to say. If you change your attitude, then the feelings of being in love can grow and perhaps become a wonderful source of joy for you. If you hold on tightly to your attitude, then eventually it will wear on the loving feelings and you will eventually stop loving that other person. What if the feelings of love were so amazingly powerful, that they caused the attitude to change and your core belief system about love and relationships changed too? Your feelings can definitely have an effect on your attitude, but your attitude wins out more often.

Your attitude is not more powerful because it’s more important than your feelings. It’s more powerful because it’s more stubborn than your feelings. Let’s look again at our example where the feelings are positive and the attitude is negative. We’ve seen people fall madly in love with someone who loved them in return. These same people had bad attitudes about love and relationships in general. Their feelings were not able to overpower their attitude. They believe ‘it’s never going to work out anyway’ and create a self-fulfilling prophecy. By not believing in love, they destroy their good relationship and then feel hurt by the failed relationship. Their minds take that as evidence to further continue with the negative attitude regarding love. The same dynamic holds true regardless of topic. The reason the attitude wins the battle more often then our feelings is because feelings are ever-changing and flexible while attitudes are often locked into place and become an unmovable force.

What if the feelings were bad and the attitude was good? If you felt afraid that you might fail at your goals, but you had a positive attitude and deep down you believed in yourself, then you could choose to keep moving forward despite your feelings of fear. Your attitude would win out over your feelings once again.

If your feelings and attitudes match, then you have an inner balance and harmony within yourself. Isn’t this the age-old battle between heart and head? Attitude comes from your head and feelings come from your heart. When the two agree you are able to focus and move forward with confidence. When the two are at war you have to decide which is right… the heart’s feelings or the head’s attitude? Perhaps in sitting quietly and looking inward at our feelings and attitudes from a detached perspective, we can evaluate and chose for ourselves on a case-by-case basis which one should lead us, our feelings or our attitudes.

Ps: According to the article we could see that emotions had 2 perspective. So its all depend on ourself to choose the destruct or construct ones.

Author:

Skye Thomas began writing books and articles with an everyday practical approach to spirituality, motivation, and inspiration in 1999 after twenty years of studying spirituality, metaphysics, motivation, and parenting. Visit his site Here

# Self Marketing for the 1st Job Interview

When we started to find a job. Most of us face the same nervous feeling. It's about interviewing. Actually nervous is about preparation. If you prepare yourself this thing shouldn't be a problem.

Here the little tips to face the job interview.

1. Prepare all the things that could support you in the interview.

2. Considering dress code and manner assign value.

3. Knowing and understanding your skill could make you more confidence and sell yourself with the right price.

4. Planted it on your mind that when you work with this company that’s mean you sell all your skill, focus and your time to this company and you will make this company improve so you deserve to got the right appreciate.

5. Be honest. Interviewer could feel it when u honest.

6. Don’t just answering the question but try to asking some question about the company to the interviewer. That show how much you interest with the job position.

Here some tips for asking questions, and Here is for answering tips.

7. Back to the basic.. positive attitude is the 1st point for all of this things.

Whatever the results of the job interview, accept it with big heart. Showing your big heart could increasing your value. If the interviewer consider it. He/she would like to refer you for another chance. Sure another chance could come to you.

# "KEY" for 7 self confidence attitude tips

Many tips from book, seminar or article to change our focus or to motivate us becoming self confidence. But the fact is all the tips useless when we face the real situation. I realize that the tips didnt enough. I need a key to make the tips usefull and the key is in my own hand. The tips wasnt the key. So i started to combined the key with it. Here they are:

1) No matter how I feel at this very moment, make and feel myself in the situation I want to be in. I really have to see it in my mind eye being successful. In each situation imagine how it feels to be in that situation and hold those thoughts and feelings in my mind for as long as I can.
2) If at anytime I find a negative thought creeping in to my mind, and let's face it, it will happen. Deliberately and consciously let go of that negative thought and immediately, I put a positive thought into my mind. Change the focus.. its not easy for the 1st time … but I have to make it become my habit.
3) When faced with a problem, start to overcome it by first concentrating on what qualities or positives I do has at my disposal. I have to face it. The problem is not important enough than my entire whole life. I really meant it. This will immediately take my focus off the negative thoughts of the problem and onto my own positive abilities.
4) Do not give any problem or negative situation anymore credit than it deserves. Do not build the problem up in my mind. Say it “Get loss all the problem !!” Sometimes we build up a problem into a much greater thing than it really is through our fear of failure and worry. Realise the world will not stop spinning if I don't solve the problem straight-away, it may also pay to write the problem down so I can see it for what it actually is...not what I have built it up to be.
5) Find and develop my own set of affirmations that I can use and repeat to myself at times when Im feeling particularly low like “Never Give Up !!”. Repeating positive phrases with emotion can help change a negative thought pattern to a positive one.
6) I Have to take a long hard look at my abilities and skills, assess them and their strength. Once I have done this raise my estimation. After all the whole is greater than the sum of it's parts and it is important to develop a healthy belief in myself.
7) With Any sort of religous belief then relax and remember the power of the God that I believe in is all around. Allow his power to flow through my freely and raise myself confidence through Him. If God is for me who can possibly defeat me?

Other motivation, development books just a tools. I have to believe. Just me could boost myself to react to what had happen to my life. Its all depend on me. Not the tips.

# The Science of Getting Rich

We've heard “The Science of getting rich” often. But..what is it. What is “Science of getting rich” ? Did it work ? The Science of Getting Rich (SOGR) is a timeless classic written in 1910 by Wallace D.Wattles . It is a bold title for a book and suggests that getting rich is a predictable outcome if one can master the principles outlined in the book. Here is how Wallace D. Wattles puts it in his own words,

"The ownership of money and property comes as a result of doing things in a certain way. Those who do things in this certain way, whether on purpose or accidentally, get rich. Those who do not do things in this certain way, no matter how hard they work or how able they are, remain poor. It is a natural law that like causes always produce like effects. Therefore, any man or woman who learns to do things in this certain way will infallibly get rich."

Certainly, this book is well referenced by many of the great teachers today and it is the same book that inspired Rhonda Byrne to produce that runaway success "the Secret". Here is what Rhonda Byrne said on her introductory note to the book, "I can honestly say that, since that first night when a tattered printed manuscript found its way to me (thanks to one of my daughters), my life has never been the same. Once you read it for yourself, you will understand why". Rhonda went on to produce the movie "the Secret" and the best-selling book of the same title which has sold millions of copies worldwide.

# Daily Success Habit

Here are a few of daily habits that have contributed to success:

Read, read, read! I could not begin to tell you how many personal development books, articles, blogs and sites that I have read. I love to keep up with the latest. Information being disseminated is prolific and the personal growth 'conversation' is growing exponentially.

Stay in communication. Each day I am connected with others who are in the personal growth world. We find things out from each other and share each others' experiences. "Learn from the mistakes of others, you can never live long enough to make them all yourself." ~John Luther~

Participate in programs. Since the 1990's through to today I have been on many personal or business development program weekends such as Landmark Education,
"Anthony Robbins" , Christopher Howard, various one-hour or half day programs, evenings led by a very diverse range of people such as Brad Sugars, Mal Emery.

Take consistent action. Never, ever give up. Do what you love to do and do it daily. I love to share resources and personal growth tips with others. My daily blogging reflects that. Whenever I find something useful, I share it with others. Sharing knowledge is what expands an empowered environment for us all to grow.

Develop clarity. Get more and more clear on what I want for my life and what I want my life to be about. Sharing these kinds of posts with others helps to get me more clear about what I love and what I want to contribute. I constantly search for the 'footprint' I want to leave on Earth and move toward that direction, daily.

Visualize with emotion. Spend time every day, a few moments before sleep and on waking, to see in my mind's eye and feel, with every fibre of my being, how it is for me when I fulfill every one of my personal goals.

Vision board. Yes, I have created one of these and it is posted up on the inside of my wardrobe door so that I see it each day when I dress for the day.

Have systems. For all the things to which I need to attend daily, I have systems in place to keep me organized. I have templates that I can personalize for emails that are repetitive. I have filing systems so that I always know what to do with the bits of paper that cross my path! I have a calendar that throws up reminders on my computer screen. Any promises, appointments, requests are immediately entered into that calendar with an advance reminder set in place. Wherever I can, I automate and organize so that it saves me time.

Be discerning. I am becoming more and more selective and attend only to those things that move forward my vision. There are less and less low quality and time wasting activities that grab my attention, the more success that I experience. As success levels increase, so do the number of requests in my email in-box and other places. I am more vigilant with productive, high leverage use of my time.

Create personal time. Greg (my partner) and I have set aside Saturday afternoon through to Monday morning as our time. We both have our own businesses and unless we schedule time together, it is very easily to allow external influences to keep us in activity 24/7 so we must set aside deliberate time that is ours to do with as we please.

Good friends. Have people around you who know you well and will tell it to you straight! "I don't need a friend who changes when I change and who nods when I nod; my shadow does that much better." ~Plutarch~ I have phone calls and coffee meets scheduled with those friends, every week.

Focus on the good. This one takes me a lot of practice. Keep the focus on what is working and what is right, rather than what is wrong and not going the way I'd like it to go. My best tool for this is a poster at my desk, "Whatever you focus on WILL expand." It reminds me to 'switch' and replace a negative thought immediately.

Be aware and present. I am so much better at staying in the present moment, noticing my internal hunches and going with those than I used to be years ago. This is as a result of committing to being that way and being vigilant. It takes practice.

Value myself and my contribution. I trust that I make a difference. I believe in myself and value myself as unique. I take space because I have a right to do that. No human is of lesser or greater value than another and I include myself in that equation.

Learn and explore. I stay curious. It's amazing the things I discover when I give up that 'I already know'. I hear the gold in the communication from other people and can weigh up if something is for me or not, by staying open to the new. It keeps me flexible and OK with saying yes or no. It helps me forgive myself moment by moment when I change my mind about a direction I'm traveling.

Know when enough is enough. I am finishing my article here because I can see that I could go on forever. There are so many things I could choose to share which contribute to my success. So this paragraph is my cut-off, and I decide to be content and complete with what I have written here. I trust that others will fill the gaps with items that I have not shared here!
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Thea Westra is an international life coach who resides in Perth, Western Australia. She is editor and publisher of a free, monthly newsletter at her life coaching site. Visit her site Here

# How to Build Rock Solid Self Confidence

You have probably noticed those people at work, school, and in your daily life that always appear to be self confident and on top of world.
Everything seems to go right for these people and they always seem to present themselves as calm, collected and successful in everything they do.
If you are paying attention you have probably noticed that these self confident people usually are successful in every area of their lives.
Is this because they are smarter? Or is it because they have more money? Maybe they are just lucky?
The reality is that none of these things are necessarily true. Self confident people understand the impact of believing in themselves and relying on their abilities.
This confidence ultimately creates opportunities for success and with each new success another self confidence building block is put into place. Success builds upon success reinforcing self confidence with each new achievement.
Self confident people perceive themselves as able to achieve those things they set out to do and this perception creates reality in their lives.
Yes, perception creates reality. You can become the person you want to be. You have heard it said that if you can believe it you can achieve it.
So start believing in yourself, acting on that belief and you will start building self confidence in your life.
Here are some helpful tips to build self confidence one success at a time.
1. Make a list of your strong points.
All the positive things about yourself and the things that you are good at doing. Think of compliments you have received or things that come easily to you. It doesn't matter what it is, if it's good, write it down.
2. Choose two of those things that you want to work on to improve even more.
It's important to succeed and by concentrating on the areas you are already good at you will have a better chance of becoming even more sure of yourself. Remember that success builds upon success.
3. Exude confidence even if you don't feel like it.
Talk to yourself in an encouraging way and stay away from negative thoughts and people as you can.
Instead surround yourself with positive, confident, and successful people. This will become a habit and one that will build confidence.
4. Look at yourself in a different way than you are used to doing.
It can change your life and help your confidence level to rise. See yourself as the self confident person you want to be and before you know it you will become that person.
If you have a set-back do not let it get the best of you. Remember the times when you exhibited self confidence and how good it felt and then try again and each time will help you to build confidence and confidence building will become a way of life.
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Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently produced a very popular free report:10 Simple Steps to Developing Communication Confidence. visit his site Here
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# The Greatest Gift - What is It?

The greatest gift we can give one another in a relationship is our true selves – being who we are. For some this is not difficult, but for most it takes practice to take off the masks and become real.

At first it can seem frightening to stop playing games, and just be. However, much of the trouble that arises in relationships is because we are unwilling to do this. We think the games we play protect us, though they are actually the cause of the problems we have. Our need for real contact is so strong that when it is not there, our partner can easily feel lonely, rejected or as though they don't matter much.

There are all kinds of ways we keep the games going. Instead of finding out who our partner truly is, or what they really need from us, when something happens we don't like, we rush to label them. They become an object to us, a stranger, or opponent in some way. Before we give them a chance to reveal themselves, we throw them away. In this way we constantly separate ourselves from one another and then wonder why we feel so alone. The biggest need we all have is to stop playing games, trust who we are and realize that each person who comes into our lives is there for a reason; they are worth knowing truly. We must learn to build bridges between ourselves and them; allow open communication to take place. When we are unwilling to do this, it is usually because we are hiding, afraid of being known.

How To Let Go of The Games We Play

To start on our journey of becoming real, it is useful to look closely at the roles we play-the fantasies we so cherish. These roles are often exactly what get in our way. Roles can be hypnotic, it is easy to fall in love with a role or fantasy and begin to believe it is who we truly are. Or, more commonly, we fall in love with the role someone else is playing, become mesmerized by it and have no idea at all who the real person is. When that happens, we are not falling in love with the person, but with the fantasy they are creating for us. It can and does come as quite a shock when things change and, one day, we find out who they truly are. At this point, many relationships get rocky.

There are many reasons it may feel dangerous to let go of a role or image. For some, the idea of being true has become confused with the idea of being selfish, not caring about the feelings of others. Oddly enough, just the opposite is so. When we are able to respond truthfully, real caring can begin to arise. On the other hand, when we act from our roles and games, we are implicitly demanding this kind of false response from others. This way of relating is deadening; and takes the enthusiasm, fun and aliveness away. Everything becomes predictable. Boredom sets in.

The biggest danger of being lost in a role is that we lose touch with the reality of who we really are and what's going on, both for ourselves and others. An incredible amount of misunderstanding comes about when we are glued to a particular fantasy or role. Unglue yourself a little.

In order to unglue ourselves from the usual roles we play, it is helpful to step into another's shoes. Try seeing the situation from your partner's point of view. Pretend you are them for a few moments; what would you need or want if that were true? Look at yourself through their eyes. You may be in for quite a surprise. As our compassion for and understanding of others increases, our stereotyped reactions melt away.

We constantly need to broaden our horizons. No relationship can stay the same forever. If it does grow, it begins to fade. If we do not expand, we begin to atrophy as well. As we become real and respond from the truth of who we are, a sense of fresh possibilities, flexibility and aliveness comes to us. It brings excitement and adventure as well. This a sure fire way to bring the greatest gift, both to others and to ourselves.

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Dr. Shoshanna is Psychologist, relationship expert, speaker, and noted author has helped thousands become stable, strong and fulfilled. visit her site Here

# The Truth

Every experience we term ‘failure' holds a core of liberating truth within. The next time you feel as if you have somehow failed, review these truths and you will see why you do not need to fear failure!

There is no such thing as failure. The Course in Miracles teaches that there is no such thing as failure; there are only learning lessons. Failure implies a fixed state of affairs that invites judgment and suffering. In reality, everything in the world is a work in progress. Even when it feels like the force of life might crush you, these trying moments form part of a broader spectrum that can help you discover your true strength.

You can always start over again. You can start over in any area of your life, at any time. You have been endowed with the power of free choice. When you choose to drive down one street and find it clogged with traffic, you can choose to go down another road. Life is no different! If one choice seems to lead you down a dead-end, you can choose again.

All judgments are self-judgments. When you see yourself as a failure, you are standing in judgment over yourself. Instead of judging whether your effort is successful or not, focus on what you have learned from the experience. Then, look for ways you can apply what you have learned to make your next step more meaningful.

Forgive yourself. The Greek philosopher Socrates taught that each individual chooses only the good, based on their understanding of that good. Ask yourself whether you did your best with what you knew at the time. If you can answer ‘yes,' forgive yourself for any self-judgment. If you did not act in the most responsible manner, decide what changes you need to make to remedy the situation, and then forgive yourself, resolving to apply the changes needed to move forward.

Give up the label. The pain of thinking of yourself as a failure can exist only for as long as you cling to it. Instead of looking at the circumstance in simplistic terms as success or failure, look at the situation from a broader perspective. You will find that there was a silver lining to even the darkest cloud. Once you can observe the experience from a larger viewpoint, you can let go of the limiting label of failure.

Cultivate an attitude of gratitude. Even in the midst of an experience that feels like failure, you are learning, growing and expanding. If you look past the initial disappointment, you will find valuable ways in which you have grown. Perhaps the situation taught you the value of patience, or of surrendering to a Higher Power. Give thanks for what you have learned. When you can give thanks for the lessons learned or the qualities developed during the very times you struggled for survival, you will find the freedom to move forward.

Find the gift in the experience. The Universe is made up of energy, and energy can never be destroyed; it simply changes form. It means that when one door closes, another is bound to open! Perhaps the "failed" relationship is offering you the opportunity to attract a relationship that is more honoring to your being. If you have just been laid off work, the gift could be the opportunity to find work that is more appropriately aligned to your values.

Focus on what you want more of. It is your perception of failure that empowers it, because whatever you choose to focus on, you energize. Instead of focusing on failure, why not focus on the success you aspire to instead? By focusing on the desired outcome, you will find it easier to discover the action steps that lead to it.

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Ada Porat is a holistic health practitioner and life balance coach with extensive international teaching and clinical experience. She uses body/mind/spirit techniques to help clients enjoy succesful living. Visit her site Here

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# Whats ur perspective??

The next time you are thirsty, hold up a glass of water in front of you before you drink from it, is it half-full or is it half-empty?
This is a decision that is entirely yours to make. It is also a decision that reflects your general outlook on life.

Your thoughts and how you react to external events are the only things in life you have direct control over. You cannot control certain situations, and you cannot control how other people behave, but you can control how you react to these events.

There are always two sides to any situation, to any event, and to any person. Focus on the negative in these circumstances and you will not feel great about who you are and what you’re doing. You will always be expecting bad things to happen, and inevitably they will, because that is what your focus is on.

However, if you focus on the positive in everything, by seeking the lesson each mistake has to teach you, and the growth that occurs through overcoming difficulties, you will attract more positive situations into your life.

When you say things like “I don’t want to be ill,” or “I don’t want to forget something” your focus is on the negative aspects of the situation, even if you want a positive outcome. In these situations you are focusing on the words “ill” and “forget,” both of which have negative connotations. Instead, focus on wanting to be healthy and remembering that something.

You can change your focus by controlling the information you receive. Rather than reading about or watching negative news items, read or watch motivational material. This will instantly put you into a positive mood and you will begin to focus on the positives of life.

By choosing to focus on the positives, you will be choosing to think positively, and once you think positively you will begin to take positive actions in your life.

So, are you feeling thirsty? Go grab a glass of water, and answer the question; is it half-full or is it half-empty?

# Ideas Without Action - Meaningless

Most folks would agree that ideas without action are of very little value. Ideas without reference or application cannot solve problems. We can make these statements all we want and we might even say that ideas or concepts that do not turn into completed projects that render desired results are of no value. Indeed, we could say this couldn't we and many do. Let me present a more enlightened thought on the subject.
You see, Leonardo da Vinci, had many ideas and hundreds of note books and sketches, we still have a few today. He designed the bicycle, a helicopter, human hang-glider and all sorts of things that never really were totally completed. Does that make his ideas the lesser? No, because after his death many of these ideas and concepts did come to fruition and therefore were completed projects and considered great. Of course, Leonardo da Vinci, in his era was only really known for what he did complete.
For those who say that ideas or concepts do not count for much, it is probably because their ideas or original thoughts are so limited in scope and their minds so small that they cannot see the bigger picture and for them I feel sorry, but they join the masses in their ignorance and will probably go to their death bed bitter old men, never enlightened.
This is not to say that action should not be put towards ideas or that concepts should not be made into projects, surely they should and the more research and development that is done the better. The point is that ideas are of value and any one who says that they are not has No Idea, what they are talking about.
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L. Winslow is an Economic Advisor to the Online Think Tank, a Futurist and retired entreprenuer. Visit site Here

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# Controling Situation Using Positive Thinking

Every once in a while, everyone becomes distracted, unfocused, and disheartened, especially when it seems that nothing is going your way. Now, you could let your mood and the events around you dictate how you respond and make a seemingly bad day worse, or you could harness the power of positive thinking and demand that the negative emotions you are experiencing relinquish control over your life.

I will be the first to admit that it is much easier to tell someone that thinking positive will help in a less than ideal situation than it is to actually get that individual to believe and cooperate. There have been times in my life, and maybe some of your lives too, when I did not know where the next meal was coming from or if I would return home to a cold dark house, because I could not afford the utility bill.

There are far more people just barely "making it" than we would like to believe, and this is why we should practice positive thinking on a daily basis. It is about controlling your situation instead of allowing your situation to control you. When we implement a routine of daily positive thinking in our lives, we enable ourselves to mentally rise above our immediate situations. This is the first step towards actually unleashing the power of positive thought in our lives.

Once your subconscious mind becomes receptive to the practice of daily positive thinking (and believe me, there will be some resistance at first), you become more fully able to accept that you are worthy of better in life and begin to attract more positive outcomes than negative in your day to day living.

If it is difficult for you at first to allow the power of positive thinking in your life, start small. After all, you have to crawl before you can walk. Make a conscious effort to search out and look for the positive in every situation. Sometimes, depending on the situation, this may be darn near impossible, but try anyway.

Make a habit of stopping to reflect on all the positive things that happen in your life daily. It may even be a good idea to keep a journal; so that whenever you are feeling down, you can pick up your journal, read it, and reflect on the positive thoughts that you have written. Remember, it all starts with just one small step.


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# Always seek to improve yourself to the next level.

I have a good friend who is also my business consultation client.

He’s millionaire and made his money by buying 3-4 new properties each month but he doesn’t look like one of those rich people you’ve seen flashing their cars and diamonds.

Put it this way— he doesn’t LOOK rich. I mean it.

Last week when I was having lunch with him, he told me a story of how he met a ‘successful’ book author.

Let’s call my friend, Robert.

You see, Robert’s the type of guy who likes to attend seminars because he’s always seeking for new and brilliant money-making ideas.

And in a real estate seminar he was attending, there was this “famous” real estate book author.

So Robert politely approached the author with a copy of the book that he had purchased. He then asked the author for a personal autograph.

Of course the author was pleased and he wrote this note on the book for Robert…

“Robert, you’ll be the next millionaire!”

My friend IS already a millionaire and probably has more properties than the real estate author could ever imagine.

There are a few key lessons I want to share here.

Never, ever judge anyone— especially in seminars regardless of how successful or rich you are. You could never know the that guy sitting beside you is 10 times better than you. Also, don’t a smart Alec. It doesn’t pays to act smart.

Lesson? Be humble. Be modest. Maybe, you’ll discover a few extra tips in life for free.

Always seek to improve yourself to the next level.

If you’re not growing, you’re declining. You could say that you’re ‘maintaining’ but be honest with yourself—How could you be at the same level when we’re living in a world where new ideas and technologies are developed so quickly?

20 years ago, being a millionaire is a big deal. Nowadays, it’s pretty common.

Read books. Attain seminars. Listen to CD’s. Go to the library. Surf the internet. Whatever. Just make sure that you’re developing your personal growth on a consistent basis. It doesn’t have to be the topic of creating wealth or becoming richer because wealth is just a portion of your “wheel of life”. All money with no love makes Jake a sad boy.



It could be anything as long as you know that you’re becoming wiser and finding ways to attain happiness. Of course, lots of money in the pocket plays a huge role but not necessary.


Large money is made in a leverage fashion. If you really want to become extremely wealthy, find any information you can get about ‘leverage income’. Robert makes a lot of money from ‘leverage income’ such as acquiring properties.

With his methods, he could buy one below the value of the property, ‘revamp’ it, increase the value and make 100% profit out of it. But he doesn’t just go out and sell it back to the market. He uses it for other means of leverage—such as increasing his capital, creating positive cashflow, etc.

“Leverage income” comes in many forms, my friend.

An author is applying ‘leverage income’ when he’s collecting royalty fee from his books.

A supplement consumer is expanding his ‘leverage income’ by building a network for his multi-level marketing business.

Properties. Stocks. Internet. Systems. Businesses. Licenses. These are a few examples of ‘leverage incomes’.

My closing for today’s content?

When you become the Master, go back to lesson one— Don’t show off. Trust me, you’ll get nothing back from it accept for temporarily ego boost.

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Patric Chan, Founder of The You "Chan" Do It Personal Achievement Program
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#The Difference Between Believing And Knowing

One aspect to achieving a goal, is a measure of whether you believe it will happen or not. But, what if you take that BELIEF to another level altogether, which can ultimately produce much faster results, because all the things that you are going to need to help you attain your goal, are ready in line at the time you need them. For this you need to take your BELIEF to the level of KNOWING.

KNOWING that something will be there when you put your hand out to reach it is a powerful energy to work with.

To help understand the subtleties between believing and knowing - compare the difference between knowing it was sunny yesterday and believing it will be sunny tomorrow. If you live in a warm, dry, arid climate, then the expectation of a continuance of sun is probably much stronger than if you live somewhere with high rainfall. Pre-disposition based on past events has already set your expectation and your level of BELIEF. Just as in your own personal life, how you have been in the past, colors your expectations about what will occur in the future.

Consider, though, that in both cases, there is the same image in your brain of a sunny day, with the only difference being one of time. What evidence do you really have that it actually was sunny yesterday - did you experience it in order for it to be in your memory? Did someone tell you it was sunny? The newspaper corroborates your view perhaps? Although, it could be that you just dreamed or imagined it was sunny, or what you experienced, no one else did - say the clouds skirted around your house and the sun shone on you all day, but your neighbours got rain. We tend to believe things more strongly when they are in the past than the future, citing various other evidence to corroborate what we believe.

If you can transfer that same sense of knowing that you have about the past, on to what you believe for the future, then you will almost certainly bring about the desired outcome. And, of course the more people who also believe the same thing, the more that belief is reinforced - just as someone else in the same place experiencing a sunny day reinforces your own view that it was sunny yesterday.

I know how effective this can be from my own experience of emigrating to another country - it took me just 2 months from making the committed decision. That was the first step - commitment to my decision - I KNEW that I was going. I KNEW that whatever I needed would be available to me to make it happen. I arranged my visa, set a date, booked my ticket, worked out a plan of action and then set about selling my house, car, furniture, everything barring personal items - all while continuing a full time job. Plenty of people told me I couldn't do it - and yes it was hard work - but I KNEW differently and KNEW that I could achieve it. And I did.

The difference for me was not just that I believed it could be done, but that I KNEW it could be done.

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Julie Hargreaves
Life coach and author of many self development articles and guides available at Julie Hargreaves - life coach and author of many self development articles and guides available at Here

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